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Peter,

Thank you for sharing this excellent lesson on attitude. I created a web page on this very topic a few years ago. We can be proactive by realizing that we have a choice on the attitude we take.

I totally agree with you, Nellie! Let me even sharpen your last sentence: We HAVE TO be proactive in choosing our attitude – that will make all the difference between “us having the attitude” and “the attitude having us”!

I’m happy to hear him praise attitude, but I do take reservation with the statement “more important than facts.”

I often hear the view that money makes you happy, or that people make you happy. I say that either of those are fine to pursue but that the fundamental cause of happiness is attitude and thinking.

The point for me is, there isn’t such a thing as “facts”. Every fact gains its meaning by the frame it is viewed through by a human mind. That is where (your) attitude comes into the play. Understand me right: I don’t want to say that there is no outer world, but that there is no meaning without the framing through a human mind. And this framing is not bound by the facts but in a certain way a free decision of that human mind. The very same “facts” are one’s crisis, the other’s opportunity …

Just seeing this discussion and feeling curious about how to find things here as more and more content goes up…

I guess I do believe there’s something outside the mindframe, but I’ve given up ever gaining any certainty about what it is.

It’s been a long journey to this place, though. I sure have tried to make things into facts and then “investigate” and “analyze” them. All that education! ;-) At this point, I would have to agree that attitude is just about everything, if not absolutely everything.

What’s so important about this subject to you, Peter?

Hey, by the way, in case anyone is interested in sculpting your attitude so it works a little more the way you want it to, my friend, Debbie Thomas, came up with a charming (and VERY effective) set of jingles that help do that. She calls them “Attitude Zapz” and you can use them to sing your subconscious mind into a persistent positive state.

Not a Polyanna state. A productive and happy state, right in the face of challenging circumstances. I vouch for ‘em! They’re better than vitamins…

If you’re interested, you can download a totally no cost sample just to see how they work. I promise, if you sing one five or six times in a row, you can plant an affirmation so deep you’ll find yourself singing it silently in your head when you wake up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.

Once they’re in your head, they seem to pop up right when you need them… Like the next time someone cuts you off in traffic … or does something that makes some other part of your life a little more difficult. I really like what they do for me! Not magic…but almost.

Click here to check one out.

I always tell my children that happiness is a choice we make. I cannot change the externals; but, I am master of my own attitude and its adjustment.

FOR ME ITS SUMTHING WHCH JST A SENSE OF THNKING A PLAESURE FOR BEING A GUD PERSONALITY N TOP OF ALL A GUD HUMAN BEINGGGGGGGGGG

Attitude is a huge part of your life. Your attitude determines what you believe you can or cannot do, which actually then determines what do or don’t do. Thanks for this, Peter!

I understand that the significance of facts is contextual and that a true appreciation of them depends on understanding how they relate to you specifically, which varies from person to person, but in order to figure all of that out in a useful way you need to know what facts are true objectively. If something is broken at your work place and everyone looks at this fact and responds to it cynically and apathetically, while you respond to it constructively, you are contextualizing the knowledge differently; but this requires an appreciation of the objective fact that it’s broken to be meaningful or useless; context itself is just other facts. Even when you shift your attitude you are acting on the fact that a better attitude is more prosperous which is objectively true. Your method of thought is more important in most situations than the particulars of the situation, but your method of thought is itself indicative of certain facts about human nature and is only useful when you have a firm grasp of the situation’s particulars.

Although I wouldn’t have written it that way myself, becuase the facts issue is so important to me, I think he likely means “the particular facts of one’s situation,” not facts as in understanding the objective truth in your attemps to rise above one’s circumstance. So I still agree in essence with this piece.

(Blah, double posted by mistake.)

Well….yes.Good discussion.Attitude is a choise.If I am hurt by other’s person’s actions..I can choose to forgive.Then forgiveness becomes my attitude,because i chose to forgive instead of getting locked into looking what the other person did.

I can choose to forgive or react.Sometimes,though,we need help and for that…prayer is the best medicine.

When our heart gets locked into anger or whatever…He can deliver us from all darkeness and then we are free again.

Then we can choose to look to Him and His Love and extend forgiveness and grace.

We can choose and yet…sometimes…only and when we are open to the Lord and then He does a work in us.

It is not only mind over matter.

Sometimes it is prayer over darkness and works of the evil one in our lives and the lives of others.We need the Lord and the prayers of others.

Attitude is a key to success in any field – Check out ‘You can win’ by Shiv Khera.